I just reread my Mim Mims post and hope I didn't offend anyone. I struggle with being pro-breastfeeding without seeming judgemental towards moms that aren't bf. I know it isn't black and white. I've become very frustrated with doctors that refuse to educate themselves so that they can truly support breastfeeding mothers. I went through 5 pediatricians in 3 years before finding one that trusted me as a mother and believed breastmilk was the ideal food for babies.
So, when I wrote that failure was not an option I was writing from inside my head. I don't consider other moms failures. But, that is how I would have felt about my situation. I know as mothers that we do the best we can with the information we have available at the time.
After Goldie was born breastfeeding gave me something to focus on. I felt like it was the one thing I could do for her. It gave me a sense of control. It was also what was familiar to me. I wanted mothering Goldie to be like mothering my other babies. I would have grieved tremendously if Goldie hadn't been able to nurse. My heart goes out to mothers who struggle with this. Mothers who pump for their babies have my highest respect. They are doing double duty to give their babies the benefits of breastmilk.
I would love to hear comments on what did and didn't help mother's wanting to nurse their baby with down syndrome. I'd love to see better information available to future moms.